Don’t get me wrong, I love words.  In conversation, I hang on to every word and believe what is being said to me with my whole heart.  My top Love Language is “Words of Affirmation”.  Simply talk to me and drop in a dose of praise and admiration and I would love you eternally!

In the last few weeks, I’ve realised that being so trustful of someone’s words above everything else is misleading.  I’m thinking now about my interactions with men.  From my experience, the guys I like would say one thing that really makes me smile and happy but their behaviour, actions and in my case, distance and separation tells a different story.  They like me so much, they say, but I never see them.  Yet I cling on to the fact that they said they liked me and if they could see me they would.  None of them serve in the Armed Forces.  They have no obstructions from arranging time to see me. I’m waking up to the fact that they could see me if they wanted to, but are choosing not to.  Despite all the lovely things they say.

My mum told me that I need to learn and practice discernment.  Furthermore, when I’ve looked into the ways we communicate; body language plays a more important role to how messages are conveyed than the words we use.  We’ve all heard the adage “Actions speak louder than words”.  There’s a wealth of truth in that statement.  It’s time that I act accordingly. 

To the men in my future, I’m not going to cling on to your every word, ignoring all other signals.  There’s a new Katty in town and this girl expects your words to be backed up by action.  Don’t say what you could or would do.  Just do what you’re doing and I will be the judge.